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What we need to realize is that if we live long enough, someone is going to break our heart. It doesn't have to be a romantic interest; it can be a child, a friend, even a parent or someone we trusted in. So what do you do when someone breaks your heart? There are many psychological books and articles on the subject, but for me, the best resource is the Bible.
Many of us suffer heartbreak because we elevate people to a position they are not capable of maintaining. We forget they are mere mortals like we are with the same weaknesses and inconsistencies that we have. They may want to do the right thing, but like Paul said, "I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.
For what I do is not the good I want to
do; no, the evil I do not want to do--this I keep on doing (Romans 7: 18 - 19).
If we understand this, we would not place unrealistic expectations on others. Someone said, "You may not always trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust." In other words, you love them unconditionally. Whether you can go on living with them is up to you.
The Bible puts it this way: "It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in man" (Psalm 118: 8). You know you can always trust Him and He will always love you, no matter how bad you are. King David was a very popular and well-loved king, yet he experienced heartbreak and betrayal from those he considered his friends. In Psalm 55 he said, "If an enemy were insulting me, I could
endure it; if a foe were raising himself against me, I could hide from
him. But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend" ( v 12- 13).
And what was his consolation? "But I call to God, and the LORD saves me. Evening, morning and noon I cry out in distress, and he hears my voice" (v16-17).
That's your answer, my friend. Put your trust in God. When others disappoint you - as they will - cry out to Him. Enjoy the articles and the audio recording below and please drop me a line and let me know your thoughts.